How to Destroy FOMO for Good

My first full-time job out of college was at an elementary school where most of the staff were at least 20 years older than me.

Needless to say, I had a hard time making friends.

But, after a long week of making sure kids didn’t crack their heads open on the playground (and working my other part-time job as a hostess), I loved coming home to my couch. I could watch Army Wives in my ratty sweatpants and check my phone in between the most dramatic scenes.

There was one problem, though: everyone was doing something cooler than me.

It seemed like everyone, at least. Old friends and acquaintances from school would toast martinis, attend rock concerts, eat Insta-worthy food. By comparison, my weekends seemed pretty lame.

And suddenly, I went from enjoying my evenings to loathing myself for enjoying them. Why couldn’t I spend my time that way? During some months I would work six or seven days each week, yet I still felt like I had to do something more worthwhile with my free time to validate myself.

That feeling? It’s called FOMO: fear of missing out. It’s the self-deprecating drive to see if something more interesting is happening on social media, and the inadequacy that shortly follows.

I hate FOMO—but that didn’t stop me from checking my feeds anyway. Every picture, tweet, or status update made me want to bury myself in that couch of mine. Why couldn’t I just let it go?

Because FOMO, and social media, are addictive. And if we don’t feel FOMO every time we check our phones, we’re forced to question ourselves (i.e., you must be antisocial if you don’t wish you were with your Facebook friends).

These strategies helped me destroy FOMO, though, and keep me motivated when that nagging desire to check my phone starts creeping in:

Your fear of missing out is destroying your happiness in the present moment. Here's your three-step system for destroying FOMO. [Read more…]

How to Stop Procrastinating and Get Shiz Done

It’s always the same story. And it’s infuriating.

I sat down one evening to write this very post about how to stop procrastinating, but I paused first to reorganize some of my Pinterest boards. 30 minutes later, I was still derping around, had not accomplished anything worthwhile, and felt the tinge of regret for not doing the work I had envisioned doing in the first place.

You know how it is: you try to start some Big Project, but it seems like an insurmountable or unbearable task… so you don’t even try. And instead of giving it your all, the fire inside you dies in status updates, tweets, snaps, and pins.

Why does everyone else look so accomplished, and you can’t even start something? The answer is that those people have transcended the need to procrastinate and get. Shiz. Done.

Why do you procrastinate, anyway?

Short story: you’re lazy. You want results, but you don’t want to put in the work—even for the long-term goals you actually want to accomplish. It’s human nature to want the most results for the least effort, but unless you’re a Kardashian that method isn’t realistic.

I have experienced procrastination far too many times to know that it can ruin your life (or at least not make it as awesome as it should be). It has brought my long-term goals to a standstill. It has prevented me from reaching my full potential. And it stops now.

I’ve spent lots of time researching and finding the best ways to regain my focus and get shiz done. And while the temptation to put off work still creeps into my brain once in a while, these tips spark more productivity than I could ever muster on my own.

Before I talk about any of them, I need to mention the cardinal rule of getting shiz done: you can’t be afraid of hard work. The reason accomplished people get shiz done is because they’re willing to dive into the sticky business of reaching their goals, doing whatever it takes until the job is finished. Procrastinating implies that you consider yourself unwilling or unable to do that work—and that mindset can only drain your confidence and drive.

Okay. On to the rest of the list.

You can't figure out how to stop procrastinating--I got you covered. Check out these little tricks to be a productivity MACHINE. [Read more…]

5 Coffee Hacks You Haven’t Tried Yet

The word “hack” has become so overused, but it’s the best way to describe quick improvements—and my coffee has been in desperate need of hacking. I have loved coffee since I was four (thanks to my dad, who would let me sneak a sip or two from his mug as a kid), but for many years I was stuck in a rut that didn’t make me productive or satisfied from drinking it. I would order the same expensive drinks over and over, or use the same coffee maker without much satisfaction, and still feel crashes and jitters afterward. I claimed to be a coffee lover, but I could never truly love it.

I have employed some tricks over the years that help me enjoy my coffee, save money, and avoid crashes—and they’re just too good not to share. Try them and feel that glorious caffeinated glow.

Spending too much on coffee? Feeling jitters with your morning brew? Try these coffee hacks and get caffeinated without the crash! [Read more…]